“Behind Every Strong WOMAN is a Strong MAN”


(…and yes you did read the title correctly)

Perhaps you start unconsciously singing Boosie’s song anytime you are asked to spell out the word independent.

If you are more in tune with your poetic side, you may have heard of Shakespeare’s advice urging a person to be true to “thine own self.” This perfectly explains the independent woman who knows who she is and what she wants out of life.

However, is dating an independent woman as glorious as it seems? Throughout history and across many different cultures, Independent woman are often praised. For instance, women of the Chambri culture are noted and praised for being the sole suppliers for their families. Even though independent women are praised from afar, what are their love lives truly like? A blog subscriber posed a great question which will be today’s topic. Some of you ladies reading may relate. Some men will learn something today, but again, I am only a blogger. What do I know? I just blog my opinions. If you are curious for my response to the question, “Is being an independent woman a turn on or turn off?” then read on my friend.

You probably read the title and thought that I made some type of typo. I couldn’t have possibly implied that it takes a strong man to be with a strong woman, could I?. Very often do we hear that “behind every strong man is a strong woman.” Seldom do we consider what’s behind the “strong woman.” What makes her a strong woman? Who is behind her if she is behind the man?

In my opinion, I feel that love is a two way street and individuals must be equally yoked. Society often references the woman as an addition to the man. This implies that the man is already whole but that he needs that woman to keep him grounded and running smoothly. I do not argue with how valuable a strong woman can be to the man. She can keep him grounded and running smoothly. A strong woman will do things like inspire the man to reach his full potential because she has the “I can conquer the world” attitude. However, how valuable can a weak man be for a strong woman? It takes a strong man to be supportive of his strong woman as well. Let me reiterate that again. IT TAKES A STRONG MAN TO BE WITH A STRONG WOMAN. So, is being an independent woman a turn on or turn off? It is a turn on to the man that is secure enough with himself to know that an independent woman will love him but still have her own life/identity. This man has to be strong in his sense of self-identity, strong in his confidence in being a man for her, strong in his trust in her loyalty when they are not together, strong in his selfless motivation for her to pursue her dreams, and more. A man is not “bad” if he is not equipped to handle a strong woman. He is just simply NOT for her—the independent woman.

When determining if a independent woman is a turn on or turn off, a man needs to consider a lot. Just a few things to consider would be:

  1. She needs a different kind of love – It may be fair to say that all women like to feel appreciated and loved. Some females may like to see this love displayed through gifts. Other f