Why I Stopped Longing to Be Called “Superwoman”
I remember it like yesterday, reading a comment on my Instagram that read something to the effect of, “Meisha there’s not one thing you can’t overcome. You are truly superwoman”.
I replied, “You know you are amazing too!”
Why didn’t I just say “thank you” and accept the compliment? Was I too worried that not giving a compliment in return would make me come off as conceited? Or was it that deep down inside I knew that I wasn’t always superwoman? In fact, there have been times in my life when I contemplated giving up in a not so superwoman like manner?
But that word superwoman…To call me superwoman implied I was invincible. It implied that I was a human without error. It implied that I could do anything effortlessly. At that time, having someone call me “superwoman” was like music to my ears. It convinced me to really believe I was truly without flaws.
We can all sing Kendrick Lamar’s, “Be Humble” until we are blue in the face but let’s face it in today’s day and age we do a lot of things for “the gas”. Like being called superwoman, the gas makes us feel good.
What is “the gas”?
It is those likes you get on Instagram. It is those shares you get on your Facebook post. It is those compliments you get from those that adore you.
While you may not openly admit it because you’re afraid that someone will you view you as a self-centered, egotistical narcissist; allow me to take the heat for you. You see we as humans are not really all that humble 24/7. Now I am NOT accusing you of thinking that they’re better than the next person, but it feels good when you are noticed - - for whatever reason it may be.
So, what do we do as humans that naturally seek acceptance and desire to be noticed? Often, we advertise and brag about our accomplishments - - some more than others. Then after we have advertised ourselves and received the positive feedback, we preach about how humbled we are after the fact.