I'm In a Committed Relationship With a Single Wo(Man)
WARNING THE FOLLOWING CONTENT MAY CONTAIN ELEMENTS THAT ARE NOT SUITABLE FOR SOME AUDIENCES, such as:
Those that don’t like the truth.
Those that don’t like the real.
Those that don’t like the ugly.
Heard It All Before…
“I want to be with you, but there are some things I have to work on before we can be really be official” Hey. There may actually be some validity to this. Maybe your partner truly wants to develop the traits and qualities that’ll make him/her more suitable for a relationship… or Maybe he/she is feeding you what you want to hear to keep a “situationship” thriving.
“I like the feeling of knowing that everybody wants you, but only I can have you. At the end of the day I know who you’re coming home to” What’s wrong with someone being proud to have you? Maybe your partner really is excited to be with you - - the person that “everyone wants” … or Maybe this is a tactic to keep you in limbo. Hearing things like this may have you feeling so good and wanted that YOU take YOURSELF off the market, but what if your partner has no intentions on sealing the deal with you?
(months or years into dating) “I really like you and want this forever, but I’m still not ready to put it out there to the world yet” Contrary to popular belief, there are some people that truly do value privacy. I know people that don’t even post pictures of their children much because they value privacy of their intimate life so much. So maybe your partner is a little on the reserved side…or Maybe your partner purposely wants to appear single to keep the “window of opportunity” open. (sidekicks be lurking you know)
“You have your own friends. I have mine. You can go out with them and do your thing and we can hang out later” (this is said to you on a regular basis) It is not uncommon for a partner to still want to maintain a sense of individuality. Sometimes people can lose the essence of who they are when they get into a relationship. Your partner may still want you to have a life too…or Maybe your partner is encouraging you to go out so much alone because he/she doesn’t want you to CHECK THEM when they’re out doing their own thing - - ignoring your phone calls and such.
If It Looks Like a Duck, Swims Like a Duck, And Quacks Like a Duck…
Listen Linda, I could go on all day with the ambiguous sayings, but let’s cut right to the chase. The fact of the matter is that we live in a generation where there’s a whole lot of SINGLE people in relationships. Yep. You read that right. There’s a lot of people, both men and women (thought you were off the hook, huh ladies?), that want the benefits of being in a relationship without the sacrifice that comes with being in a relationship. Oouuu come on somebody! I feel like I’m speaking directly to someone’s situation today.
When one person is fully invested into the relationship and the other person isn’t, it’s a problem. Being faithful, loyal, and committed to a person who has a single-person mentality is damaging. Well, maybe I can change him/her. He/She has never had anyone like me to show them what real love is before. No relationship is perfect. All we need is time and he/she will see come around. What we have is real. I mean it HAS to be something between us because he/she is hasn’t went anywhere yet. This is just one of those growing relationship pains.